Update!

Heard from Mr. Army the same night I updated my last blog post! Just a few texts...he was still in Colorado at the time, but he did say that they were not allowed to have phones. Nice to know he was thinking about me!

Welcome Back!

Wow! It's been 2 years since I've blogged. A lot has happened since then. Of course, I'm still single and dating and in my 30s! If I had kept up with this thing, I probably could've written some very entertaining blogs, but alas those experiences have faded (thank goodness!). So, instead of trying to remember all the details, I'll just briefly summarize the experiences I've had since then...Here we go....

• Met a man on the internet, texted every day, hung out a few times, bad communication (and my own insecurities) led to miscommunication which resulted in him threatening to call the police if I ever tried to contact him again. Now THAT was a first!
• Another fine evening out in Schenectady with my PIC (Partner in Crime) led to....meeting some freak at Bombers's who ended up passing out at the bar next to us. Eventually he was asked to leave and escorted out. We made our way to another bar so my PIC could use the potty. During this time, I had a brief conversation with a cute, but clearly drunk guy. He asked me to go to another bar, but I declined since we were on our way to our "trouble spot". After making our way to our final destination of the evening, who do I run into, but that same guy! We had some conversation, ended up in the "apartment" and dated for about a month. I enjoyed getting my Dunkin Donuts coffee in the morning before work, as well as his sweet kitty cats, but didn't enjoy the fact that he was an alcoholic! The night "the alcoholic" told me we'd hang out and then I never heard from him, I went to our "trouble spot" and met....
• Lots of guys!!! Don't mean to brag, but my cousin and I were on FiRe! Men, men, men! Yep, sorry Scuba, but we've got it, so deal with it! So, that night my cousin and I talked to a variety of men...I ended up VERY drunk (not smart) and passed out up in the "apartment" where I later had company from a pretty cute guy. He claimed to be interested in me at the time, even asked The Alcoholic if he minded if he and I hung out.  He invited me to a friend's BBQ, even after the day before when he drove my brand new car and pulled it over so I could puke!) We hung out a few times, including a couple times that I went to see him at work (aka. "The Trouble Spot"). I made a lot of mistakes with this guy. Long story short, we hung out, then I didn't hear from him for 2 weeks...out of the blue he calls and apologizes saying he wants to keep hanging out...well, that was the last time I heard from him. Is there a REAL MAN out there??? If you're not interested, just tell me! No need for games or blowing me off...k??
• Sooooooo....the next guy would've been perfect...he had a job, apartment right in Glenville, a motorcycle, wanted a relationship and family, and....was into ME!!! So, the problem??? I was seriously anxious about seeing him naked one day! As much as I wanted to be into him, I just didn't feel chemistry...go figure!
• Thanks to Match.com I got to see Bon Jovi at SPAC. It was awesome...the guy I was with on the other hand...NOT so awesome. After what I thought was a really great date in Saratoga, Roadrash asked me to go to the concert. We waited forever in line, but he was very cuddly and sweet during the long wait to enter the park. We had a great time singing and dancing during the concert and a pretty heavy make-out session in my driveway afterwards. A few days later, we were supposed to get together, but he ended up canceling...and I never heard from him again.Strange considering he told me he had decided to look on Match.com one more time although he was pretty much done with the whole internet dating thing and only continued because of me. Oh well, the rubbing and chaffing of my upper lip from his unshaven 5 o'clock shadow was enough!
• At the end of the summer, July 2010, I went to a BBQ. I wasn't going to go, but decided I'd attend for a few hours...well, surprise, surprise, I met a guy who I ended up dating for 2 months...the longest yet, since 2006. I know....ridiculous! Anyway, he texted me everyday. We hung out a decent amount of times, and unfortunately, were "romantic" together. After two months, I wanted to make sure that we were on the same page. "Yes," he said, "we are..." A week later, he ended things. He said he realized he couldn't be in a relationship since he was miserable with his job situation and didn't know if he would even be living in this area....Relationship Speak: "I just don't want a relationship with you." Really, I'd just like to be told the truth, no lies or sugarcoating! Thanks! 
• That dude definitely hurt me. He totally acted like he was interested in me and that we wanted the same things, so I really couldn't believe it was over. I was pretty depressed for awhile too. Luckily, at the end of October 2010, I had a wedding to attend. I knew it would be a blast too and take my mind off things! And thanks to one of my BFFs, I ended up meeting a great guy, her cousin! 
• Yep, she sat us at the same table together and we hit it off just like she thought we would. I even got a hotel room instead of driving home after the wedding and I did not spend the night alone! This guy is great...family man, funny, good-looking, and as he told me "wants to be loved again". Great, huh??? Except...he lives in California!!! Figures!!! The way I see it though, he is newly divorced and probably wants to see what is out there. Even if we did live closer, he'd probably break my heart anyway! We continue to keep in touch and he is planning on visiting this summer, so I guess we'll see what happens...I've learned to keep my options open!

So now we come to the present....well, I'll back track a little. Two days before Thanksgiving, I went out for a friend's birthday and ended up meeting a guy. I started the conversation and wasn't even thinking about anything more happening between us other than talking that night. He ended up asking if I wanted to get together again. Fast forward two months...this guy seems very sweet. He's 40 and has never been married. He is in the Army National Guard and will be stationed in the area for two years. It's taken me some time to get used to his personality, but I do like him and enjoy spending time with him. Of course, there is a catch...for some reason my love life and relationships can never be easy. He works ALL THE TIME and many hours a day. There hasn't been much of an opportunity to go out and do things together. Plus, he doesn't stay in this area during the weekends. He has been away for close to two weeks and I haven't heard from him. I am really trying to do things differently with this guy...trying not to get too worried when I don't hear from him, trying not to put in too much more than I'm getting, and I haven't given up "the cookie". I told him several times what I was looking for (not to rush, to get to know each other and see where things went, no sex until I'm in a relationship) and I have still heard from him... so far, so good I suppose. The true test will be when he comes home this weekend. Will I hear from him again or not?

Stay tuned.....